I was sitting down in the back seat of a vehicle, behind the driver, in a place I like to call the "thinking spot", I was returning from a trip. I wasn't the only one in the vehicle though, they were a few other people with me, but they were merely just acquaintance, So as the introvert that I am, I was left to my thoughts. and then I started thinking about the program I had just concluded, How interesting it was, how I had the opportunity of meeting and conversing with people with crazy mindset and totally different mentality from mine, it's event's, the fun times and how beautiful an experience it was.
And then suddenly, it hit me that I had been doing something bad for the past 10 days, something I didn't even notice all Along, it was just flying under the radar, and it was having a negative effects on me. The funny thing is, I thought it was not dangerous at all, and there was no one around who could tell me how dangerous it was. well I don't blame them, because how could they have know, when it was all in my head, and in other for them to be able to help me, they'll have to be psychic.
You might be wondering right now, what is he talking about? What is it he did the that is so bad, that he feels the need to disturb me.
Well, I'm so sorry for disturbing you, but it is something you need to know, and it can not be over emphasized, because it has made a lot of people do things they now regret.
I'll tell you soon, but before then, you need to know how weighty(for lack of a better word) this thing is. You see, I am one of the lucky few(that's how I like to see it) who were able to notice this and dismiss it immediately, others like me were not so lucky.
The reason this thing is even more dangerous is that, it is in your head, and matters that has to do with the head is quite delicate, and if you don't bring them out of your head, they'll just keep eating you up until you become a zombie(Just kidding, but figuratively, you'll have no brain🤫). Trust me I speak from experience, for someone who is always in his own head, not literally though, don't start getting any ideas.
"Enough already, just tell us"
Okay! Okay!! I'll tell you jeez! What a temper.
anyways, like I said earlier on, while I was returning from a program, I suddenly realized I had been doing something considered to be suicidal, by a lot of experts, and by experts I mean me🤭, I'm not the only victim of this thing, and I'm pretty sure I won't be the last, as it affects everyone, because it is everywhere. It can be found in the scream of your dad telling you "why can't you be more like Phillips", it is in your mind when you see your mate drive pass you with his/her new 2021 Bentley, while you were trekking to your your destination, it can be found on your confused face, when you and your friend both do something, and his worked out, while yours didn't (okay, this last ones was a stretch).
Oops! I think I have spilled the beans.
Well, in case you didn't get it, I suddenly realized I had been unconsciously COMPARING my Life with that of others. shocking right? I didn't even know I was doing it, thank God I realized it early.
Hey don't get me wrong, COMPARING yourself with others is not necessarily wrong, but when you start using it to judge yourself, and beat yourself up, then it becomes troubling.
You see we compare ourselves with others, most of the time unconsciously. why do we all do this? Honestly, i don't know, probably it is because it is one of the ways we check our progress in whatever we do(that's a very good reason isn't it).
We all want to be the best at whatever we do, as a result we all have the tendency of comparing ourselves with others (the competition) and when we find out they're doing way better than us, we start feeling bad, and these feelings starts causing us to do some weird shit, like trying to acquire expensive things just to make ourselves feel better(for those that can), other's start living fake lives trying to trick people into believing that theirs life's is great, while some people just give up on their own lives (yes I am saying it, comparison is one of the numerous cause of suicides, it is that serious). Comparison is not bad, it's just that it lead most people down the wrong path.
I'm sure you must have examine your life, during the course of our little discussion (I'd like to think this is a discussion), if you've realize that you have been comparing yourself with someone else, you should stop immediately.
Why?
Huh! You still need me to convince you! wow you are a piece of work (ha! Gotcha! you though I was going to say "piece of shit" right?). Well then, I think you should keep on reading.
Reason Why You Shouldn't Compare Yourself with Others
Here are five reason why you need t o stop comparing yourself with others.
1. Comparison hurts you, emotionally, mentally. you start having low self-esteem, depression can set in, it slowly takes away your joy.
2. Comparing yourself with others, doesn't really solve anything, instead it make you waste precious time that could be used doing something productive, or thinking of something amazing you could do with your life.
3. Comparison blinds. It makes you loose sight of the good in your life, by only just highlighting your weakness.
4. It is a fools game. Why? because you are too unique to be comparing yourself with others, and others will always better than you, as a result of low self-esteem.
5. And finally, It misleads you.
I hope with this few points of mine, I have been able to convince you that you need to stop comparing and start focusing more on how to make your life better for you.
Thanks for reading to the end, all I need from you right now is for you to do me a favour, yeah! A tiny youyou favor (yeah I just said youyou - just trying to act cute).
And what the favour?
Well it's very easy, all you need to do is comment your thoughts below. Did you like it? Or did you hate it, and you can also just use the reaction button below also if you don't want to waste your time. And also don't forget to use the share buttons too.
Why should you do this?
Well first of all because you enjoyed it
Secondly because you are a good person.
So I am appealing to the good person in you to help me get this article before the people who need to see it.
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